Family, Conflict, & Death

Parents & Family

My Family

  • The thing I like most about my family is:
  • The thing I like least about my family is:
  • The way(s) my mother treated my father was:
  • The way(s) my father treated my mother was:
  • I have family members who were:
    • Addicted to alcohol…
    • Addicted to drugs…
    • Incarcerated…
    • Mentally ill…

Boundaries

  • Is it ok for my partner or I to talk with parents about the problems of our relationship?
  • How should my partner and I deal with extended family stress as a couple?
  • How do I deal with family and their money crises?
  • How much time do I need to spend with my parents and how much do I expect my partner to join us?

Holidays

  • How do I plan to spend holidays? How much will I spend on gifts for family and friends?

Aging Parents

  • Will I need to be close to my parents now or as they get older?
  • Will I ever want a parent to live with the two of us when they grow old?
  • What is my plan for my parents’ future care?

Conflict Resolution Self-Assessment

  • When I’m afraid, I usually respond by___________. How I’d like to respond is__________.
  • When I’m sad, I usually respond by___________. How I’d like to respond is__________.
  • When I’m angry, I usually respond by___________. How I’d like to respond is__________.
  • When I’m lonely, I usually respond by ___________. How I’d like to respond is__________.
  • When I’m tired, I usually respond by ___________. How I’d like to respond is___________.
  • Do I have a quick temper? How do I show it? Screaming? Pouting? Walking away? Throwing or breaking things?
  • Am I open to discussing sensitive subjects or do I get defensive and withdraw?
  • Do I hold a grudge or am I forgiving?
  • Do I complain often about people, work, or other things?
  • Do I criticize others — pointing out their flaws and shortcomings?

Medical & End of Life Issues

  • Do I have or do I want to have a living will?
  • How do I feel about organ donation?
  • When is it okay to stop trying to resuscitate me?
  • How do I feel about living in a nursing home?
  • At what point would I like to be taken off life support?
  • How will I treat my partner if I had cancer? If my partner had cancer?
  • How will I treat my partner if I was having major surgery? If my partner was having major surgery?
  • What do I want my last words to be?
  • Would I like to be buried or cremated? Where?
  • What do I want my funeral to look like?
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