Spirituality, Philosophy, & Ethics
- What is my personal “meaning of life?”
- Where does my happiness come from?
- How does one obtain true peace?
- What is my deepest intention?
- What happens to you after you die?
- What is my image of God?
- Who was Jesus? What is the bible?
- Why is there poverty and suffering in the world?
- What is the relationship between science and religion?
- How do I define a person of good character?
- Do I have clear-cut ideas about right and wrong or do I subscribe to situational ethics?
- Will I lie if it makes things more convenient for me?
- When is war justifiable?
- What is my reasoning-believing process?
- Does religion play an important part in my life? In what ways?
- Have I forgiven myself and others unconditionally?
- What does it mean to live in the present moment?
- What are your daily personal devotional practices? (i.e. prayer, reading, meditation, memorization, etc.)
- How important is it to be part of a small accountability/support group?
- What is the importance of music in life and worship?
- I prefer my chest be referred to as:
- I prefer my genitals be referred to as:
- I prefer my sexual orientation to be referred to as:
- If I were to name my genitalia, I’d call it:
- If I were to name my partner’s genitalia, I’d call them:
- Some words I am not okay with are:
- What is our safe word if things get too rough?
- How is masturbation different from sex with my partner? How do I feel about my partner masturbating?
- What kind of porn do I like? Dislike? How do I feel about my partner looking at erotica or porn?
- In what ways might porn affect our relationship?
- Foreplay to me means:
- My ideal setting for sex is:
- How do I define sex?
- How do I feel about kissing after oral?
- Ideally, how often do I like to have sex?
- If my partner and I disagree in terms of frequency, what will our solution be?
- How important is it for me to have an orgasm every time?
- What are my favorite sexual positions? What do I like about them?
- Am I interested in experimenting with new positions found in books and websites?
- How do I feel about being sexual while my partner is menstruating?
- How do I feel about quickies? Long, planned sessions?
- How do I define cheating?
- Do I want to establish from the beginning that affairs are not an option?
- Do I agree that affairs of the heart are equal to a sexual affair?
- What steps will we take to “affair-proof” my marriage?
- What are my views on socializing with opposite sex friends?
- Should we talk if one of us feels drawn to someone erotically (this can build the bond between us rather than the outside person)?
- Do I have any concerns about our sex life?
- A personal problem I’ve had in my sex life or potential sex life is:
- How do I prefer to get feedback, constructive criticism?
- If my partner wanted to tell me something/ask for something, but was afraid to bring it up, I would put them at ease by?
- Do I have any emotional hot spots/triggers?
Pregnancy & STI Prevention
- MALE: What is my stance on condom use? Have I used them regularly in the past? FEMALE: Am I currently on any form of birth control? Which methods have I used in the past?
- Have I been tested for STIs?
- What would I do in case of a pregnancy? Would I be open to abortion?